Most parents try to give their child more than he needs. They obey him and help him step by step. If the child does something wrong, the parents try to hide his mistakes. Some start blaming their children on others. They are not able to make the child understand the difference between right and wrong in time. As a result, he keeps repeating mistakes in future and blames the same on his parents. There are many other such mistakes, which have a negative effect on the upbringing of children.
Sense of insecurity
In adolescence, it is natural for children to be attracted to the opposite sex, but in such a situation, it is not right for the parent to keep an eye on the child, check the mobile, try to hear the child talking to someone on the phone. Sometimes some parents also beat up their children, but the result of all these things is that the child starts hiding his things from the parents. Due to this, the child starts focusing on other things more than studies, as well as confidence in studies starts decreasing.
Work engagements
Parents are unable to pay very little attention to themselves and at home due to work pressure. It also starts having adverse effects on the health of the children. Signs such as getting angry, getting upset quickly, being stubborn and overthinking are seen in them. Some parents try to discipline the child to avoid this and always start expecting a perfect behavior. Due to this, the child starts getting irritated with the parent and incidents like arguments with the child start happening in the house. As a result, anger and hyperactivity are seen in the child.
Parental stress
Home tension always fills a sense of insecurity in the child. It has been seen many times that when the relationship between parents is not good, then they try to prove themselves right and partner wrong with the child. They start blaming others for some wrong deed and find faults in small things. In such a situation, conflicts increase a lot in the family and in all this the children get stuck between the parents. The effect of this is that many problems related to personality start taking birth in the child.
What should be done
Be friendly with the child. Try to maintain good communication with him. Make sure to sit face to face with the child once a day and talk. Go out with the child in the morning or evening and listen carefully to his words.
Many physical and mental changes take place due to hormonal changes in adolescence. Because of this, their mood changes rapidly. If he gets very angry or argues, leave him for a while, because all behavior is only for a short time.
Parents should resolve the tension among themselves and keep all those things away from the child. Ignore any kind of argument or bickering in front of him. If there is no consensus on something, instead of fighting over it, ask the child. With this, the argument will not turn into a quarrel and the child will also feel his importance in the family.
Be friendly with him so that he himself shares everything with you.
- Pay attention to yourself along with the child, because we always expect a perfect behavior from the child, but for this the environment inside the house should also be good. So follow the same rules yourself. Instead of making the child something, help him become something. Teach home and outside chores and encourage him to do everything himself. Help only when needed, not unnecessary
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